Something that I’m often asked by people inquiring about homeschooling is if I socialize or not. I hold back the sarcastic comments, of course, and give them an actual answer. After explaining how I do have friends, they often ask where I meet them. This is where homeschooling groups come in, as many of us know.
Often, when you’re introduced to a new homeschool group, it can be nerve wracking, just as any other social event may be for a lot of us. About a year ago I moved to a new state and had to make all new friends, which was somewhat of a change for me considering I had been in the same place for nearly eight years. So, what happens when you join a new homeschooling group? How do you act, what do you do?
The first thing to remember is to obviously be yourself. I know it’s said a lot and gets annoying, but it’s the best thing to do when meeting new people. You don’t want to get to know them and then find out that you’re really not that interested in befriending them simply because you pretended to have the same interests as them. If you don’t like Doctor Who, don’t start going on and on about the characters just to get some friends. If you’re not interested in One Direction, don’t try to list inside jokes about them to join the crazed group of girls in their incessant babbling (I can say that ‘cause I’m one of them.). It’s pretty straight-forward.
What do you do when you first walk in the room or facility where the function is being held? Stand up tall, square your shoulders, and seem more confident than you are. Smile when people are looking at you, and match eye contact, though don’t stare. Even if you’re shy, doing this will make both you and them think you’re friendly and approachable. This way, you’re likely to have nice buddies come up to you and start conversation. The one thing to remember is to not match a stare for the entire duration of it; it’ll make you seem creepier than you most likely are and that doesn’t make you approachable. Simply look into their eyes for a second or two and smile, then look away.
By seeming confident in yourself, you’re giving off a good first impression in that aspect, but what do you wear I find that the key to looking confident is to be in your favorite outfit or something that you know looks good on you, something that you wear often. If you’re comfortable in your own skin, it makes it easier to look comfortable in the presence of new people.
There are other things to consider, of course. These may include the way your siblings act, and such, but one can’t really help that (believe me, I know). Just work with what you have and have fun with it! It’s not every day you get to meet new people!