How Can I Convince My Parents To Homeschool Me?

How to Get Your Parents to Homeschool

It’s one of the most common questions high schoolers ask. So, if you are wishing you could be schooled at home, you certainly aren’t alone. When trying to convince your parents that homeschooling could be ideal for you there are some things you should think about and above all, communication with your parents is the key.

Understand Your Parent’s Perspective

Try to look at things from your parent’s point of view.  As your parents, not only are they to love you, feed you, clothe you, provide a home, but they are also expected to ensure that you get the education that you need. Taking your education into their own hands can seem like a huge undertaking if it is something that has never been considered before. They are responsible to raise you to adulthood which means making sure that you learn everything you need to know before going to college, pursuing entrepreneurship, pursuing a trade, or whatever you choose to do with your life. Keep all of this in mind before approaching your parents with the idea of homeschooling.

How to Get Them to Listen to Your Perspective

  1. Figure out the “why” as far as why you want to be homeschooled. Are you being bullied? Is public school not the right “fit” for you? Maybe you want the flexibility of time that homeschool brings with it so you can be in control of planning your day to include things such as; sports, hobbies, pursuing entrepreneurship, working part-time, or even being able to take dual enrollment classes or study for AP classes. 
  2. Take a look at the “how”. There are at least 7 possible styles of learning for high school so think about how you learn best. Do you do well with textbooks and workbooks? Maybe you are more “techie” and work best on the computer. Education is at your fingertips with opportunities available online. 
  3. Explore what curriculum is available so you can present what you have discovered to your parents. It will definitely show your parents how serious you are if you already have some idea what is out there. Take a gander over our Lets Homeschool High School Directory. You will see all types of curriculum and even some great online schools. Keep in mind the cost of what you are looking at and if it would be doable for your family. There are many low cost/no-cost options out there too! 
  4. Find a good time to sit down with your parents to talk to them about homeschooling. It will show a lot of initiative on your part if you are already well versed in the options of homeschooling. Coming up with some type of visual will help convey that. Explain to them how you are feeling about your current educational situation and show them some possible homeschool options. 
  5. Listen to your parent’s concerns and keep emotions calm. You most likely have some very good reasons for wanting to change your current educational situation but do not let your emotions get out of control. Staying calm and expressing yourself in a mature manner will help them see that you are responsible enough to give homeschooling a try. 
  6. A possible concern that your parents may have is about socialization. The opportunities while homeschooling for socialization is boundless. Show your parents our FAQ About High School Homeschoolers And Socialization. Socialization goes way beyond sitting at a desk with other students your own age when you become a homeschooler.
  7. Find other homeschooled students and talk to them and their parents. Homeschooling is becoming more and more common so you are bound to find others that you and your parents can talk to about homeschooling. 

Other Teen’s Advice for Getting Parents On Board

We asked three current and former homeschoolers to share their advice for high schoolers who are wondering how they can convince their parents that homeschooling is the right decision for them. Here is what they suggested…

Andrew's Advice

If your parents are hesitant, it will be difficult. If they’re dismissive, it will be full of tribulations. But first, consider why you want to homeschool. Consider why you feel your parents would provide you with a better education than a teacher and a whiteboard. If you’re researching it on this website, you probably already have some reasons in mind. Think of the best way to present them to your parents, and present them early.

Before you do that, though, understand that homeschooling is not as widely accepted as some will tell you. There are always fears involved: will my kids become anti-social? Will they not get a proper education with me teaching them? What if I’m not able to invest the time to help them with difficult high school work? Ask your parents what concerns they have about switching their life up to homeschool their children and present them with facts about it.

Lastly, consider that your parents may have very real, practical impediments to homeschooling you. They might have full-time jobs preventing them from spending a lot of time on it. They might not have the finances to cover your schoolbooks or other educational resources that would be otherwise provided at a regular school. Talk this over with them, too, but present alternatives when you can. For example not enough time? Online curriculums don’t require a heavy time investment. Not enough money? Explain what you are willing to do to help financially. Convincing your parents to homeschool your will require a lot of maturities, so do your research, think over your reasoning and talk it over carefully.

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Katie's homeschool advice


Find out what their concerns are and address them head-on. Are they worried about having time to homeschool you? Then find a way to reduce the amount of work they have to put in–for instance, by researching and suggesting your own curriculum and being responsible for getting your work done. Are they worried about college opportunities? Show them how colleges respond to homeschoolers. Maybe they’re worried about their ability to homeschool at upper levels (lots of parents are). If this is the case, maybe you should look into tutoring opportunities or online options to supplement their own skills and knowledge. Above all, you need to be proactive and responsible for yourself. If your parents think it’s just a passing fancy, or that they’ll have to constantly nag you and prod you through your work, they’ll be less likely to let you homeschool.

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Katelyn's Homeschool Advice


Research. That’s it. It’s simple. Everybody responds well to good research. Do a presentation as well! You might use some of the planning tools from this site. Sit them down for a “meeting” and present your research on homeschooling. Give statistics (throw in a lot of college talk; parents like that), create graphs, give a visual aid, find success stories from other homeschoolers, show that you really have this figured out. Be confident. If your parents have the impression that you’re confident that homeschooling is the better option, they’ll give it a few more turns in their head than if you act like you really don’t know what you’re talking about. If your parents both work and their excuse is that no one will be home with you, show them options for independent learning.  Put together the BEST homeschooling plan for your family. Your plan needs to be able to fit your WHOLE family’s schedule. Good luck!

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