Do you feel badly that you don’t love doing dishes or washing the car? Of course not. You know these tasks have to be done, but you don’t particularly enjoy them.
You probably take a get it done approach to the jobs: knuckle down and push through to get to the good part — the result of the job’s being done.That feeling of accomplishment is what you want your child to focus in on when it comes to an unpleasant part of homeschool.
Except for those rare, super-academic teens, every student has areas of school that are distasteful. It’s normally a matter of aptitude and personality preference. Disliking a subject isn’t wrong. It simply is.
- Do you discredit your physician because he doesn’t like art?
- Do you think less of your auto mechanic because he doesn’t stay up late reading classics?
- Do you disparage a professional writer who doesn’t like math?
No. You evaluate professionals on the basis of their field of expertise. Our teens are still scoping out what field to invest in. In the meantime, they have required credits to earn which fall in all academic areas — both preferred and disliked. Unfortunately, we can’t evaluate them the same way that we look at a professional adult. But keep that future reality in mind if you start to feel guilty or distressed over your child’s get it done approach to homeschool.
You may wish that your child enjoyed math because you like the subject so much. But it’s okay if your child doesn’t. You might long for your child to spend hours reading books because your own childhood was filled with memories of reading or because you think reading will benefit your child in college admission tests. But if your child isn’t an avid reader, it is not a reflection of poor parenting or weak character.
We are all different. And isn’t that truth one of the main reasons we chose to homeschool in the first place?
Allow your teens to take a get it done approach to the distasteful subjects. As long as they are truly getting it done and fulfilling the requirements of your state, then you can feel good about their education. Don’t invest more than is necessary. Don’t prolong the pain.
You don’t linger over cleaning the shed, do you? When it’s adequately organized, you rejoice and move on to something more fun. Allow that same attitude in homeschool lessons. Get it done with integrity and bask in the earned credit.
Instead of pushing kids to love what they dislike, encourage your children to savor learning in the areas where they are passionate. Invest your money and time there so that school is motivating. As a bonus, you are honing expertise in areas where your child is naturally gifted and will likely spend her higher education years and professional life.
There is no shame in this get it done approach, so embrace it!